When you think of toxic relationships, we automatically think of the romantic type of relationship. Toxic is toxic. Work friendship or romatic. Either way if you’re in one, you gotta get out. Oh ok you have? Now what? For me that was the hardest part. The day after my toxic realtionship ended I was lost in a sense. I didn’t know how to fill the empty space. When in fact I had plenty to do. Getting over it was worse than what I thought was heartbreak. This was the heartbreak. After a few months went by and obviously Im still alive. It felt like a weight lifted. If you’re in this situation read over a few way I helped myself out of that ugly time. Cause honey its ugly. Its lonely and its dark. BUT its also a small thing to a giant. That after the hurt glow up is priceless, and necessary.
Allow Yourself To Hurt– Cry. A lot. Its been times I cried all day if given the chance. You gotta get it out. Take as long as you need and don’t force anything. There is no healer like time.
Outta Sight Outta Mind– Delete everything! Pictures. Text thread. Unfollow. Block. Do what you gotta do. If they can get to you in any way, shape or form, they will continue to be toxic for you. PERIOD. The relationship has ended and your glow up is none of their concern.
Know, Like Really Know Your Worth– Yea you see that posted all day on every social media page ever! However, do you understand that the light you bring into any situation, no one else can? Do you legit understand how valuable that is? KNOW YOUR WORTH!
Surround Yourself With Real Love– You know whose really down for you. Catch up with those loved ones who love on you when you need it.
Pursue Self Love/Growth- Love on you! Give yourself all the love and energy that was wasted on a toxic situation. Take a trip! Read a new book! Expand your mind. You’ll appreciate this glow up!
What did you do to get yourself over that toxic situation?
I miss my Ganna. Everything reminds me of her. She’s apart of my daily routine. She wasn’t ever a coffee drinker. Tea was her thing. That was her drink. She’d drink tea when she was cold or to relax, sometimes at breakfast. Tea is my thing. Lipton. Just like her. I drink it when i’m cold, at breakfast or when I miss her. It feels like 90 degrees today and I’m gonna have a cup. Just to remind me. Im currently experiencing an ugly summer cold. Warm tea is the perfect remedy. She called it a hot toddy. Warm tea, lemon and honey. Once I was 21 she’d add Grand Marnier maybe once or twice before. I miss having her make them for me mine aren’t the same.
Beyonce said it best “I aint sorry.” In this life people want you to conform. They want you to do. You absolutely cannot do that. You will never fully enjoy life until you completely live it on your terms. Stop apologizing! Heres a list to get you started.
Ending a Toxic Relationship– Toxic is toxic. It doesn’t matter if its your sister. You never have to apologized for ending a business, friendship, or personal relationship. When people are done in your life their done. End it.
Saying No– Its still an answer. More or less not the one sought out but still an answer.
Your Priorities-If you know you can’t go see Chris Brown dance across the stage Saturday, and still have electricity Monday. Its perfectly fine to sit this one out. If anyone in your life is upset about this … see number 1.
Following Your Dreams– Living your best life is whats popular to say, but doing it. Imagine the ultimate freedom of doing what you’ve dreamed about since high school. But its your job.
Standing Your Ground– Don’t be moved. No matter what chatter, you get don’t be moved.
Your Imperfections– Be a perfect imperfection. Love and embrace every so called flaw.
I’ve done the research. Trust me on this. There are enough sorry people on this Earth. No need to be one. Stop apologizing. Get your life back.
Leave it to me to ditch the birthday cake. I like donuts better. This was actually a tower. I ate the rest before the pictures. Anyhow here are a few of my better late than never birthday picture. Scroll down to get outfit details.